Foreword

by Donnie Simpson

Throughout his illustrious, ever changing career in cosmetology, Barry Fletcher's ideas and techniques have had a major impact on the way we look at beauty and hair fashions.  Next to Vidal Sassoon and Paul Mitchell, he has trained and influenced more hairdressers than anyone in the industry. Barry could have rested on his laurels years ago, after winning a Rolls-Royce in 1985 or becoming the first African American to win a position on the US Hair Olympics Team with a black model in 1994.  His work could be seen on countless celebrities and magazine covers.  He started his own hair care product line in 1992, wrote the books Why Are Black Women Losing Their Hair? in 2000 and Hair Is Sexual in 2003.  Fletch, as many of his friends call him, is a true visionary.  He is always in front of the wave and on the beach chillin' by the time the tide brings everyone else in. I have always found Barry to be very inspirational and I'm honored that he wanted me to be a part of his vision by writing this foreword. 

Barry is an ardent bachelor, so my wife won't allow me to hang with him much, but I have always felt that he had a keen eye for life and compelling conversation for the ladies in particular.  We have been friends since 1987 when he first cut my hair and I noticed his enthusiastic awareness of his social environment.  He spoke about relationships with a certain knowledge and confidence that can only come from experience.  He never was one for perpetrating or pretending and stayed true to his beliefs for socially coexisting.  It's not surprising that he decided to take on the hefty task of clarifying men's thoughts about relationships.

After 30 years of working with men and women in the community, he has become an incredibly popular and influential personality.  Fasten your seat belt, and prepare for an emotional roller-coaster ride.  I'm sure you'll find this book enlightening, truthful, disturbing, poetic and entertaining.  Barry Fletcher is about to let you get out in front of the wave too.  Hold on, surf's up.

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SHARP ADVICE FOR WOMEN

Master hair stylist Barry Fletcher is in a unique position. Women and men from all walks of life have been confiding in him for years. Too often when we have relational issues, we seek counsel from those without relevant insight. Women talk to their girlfriends; men talk to the fellas. Wouldn’t it make sense to seek information from closer to the source? Barry has heard the uncut, uncensored versions from both sides.

If you sincerely want a man who is worthy of your special light and future promise, one who can treasure you when you are down as well as he can when you are at the mountaintop, please come right in and pull up a chair. You can take control of how you go about finding him, wooing him and keeping him. You have the power to create an internal and external environment to ensure victory. You can earn a man, not by losing yourself, but by finding yourself.

Do you know what really sparks his flame? Anticipation. We love not knowing how something is going to turn out, the thrill of gradually having the excitement unfold before us. This is the reason men get so fired up about sports. So keep your mystery about you. Do not give a man everything right away, or all the time. We love to have a surprise every once in a while or something good to look forward to especially if it comes from you!

Men are tactile, visual, visceral, linear thinking sleuth-hounds. Deep inside every real man is a hero, a “knight in shining armor” who wants to serve and protect his family and loved ones.

But by all means, read LEARN A MAN  EARN A MAN and discover effective ways to own and leverage your powers, use your natural properties to control – er, or should I say, earn a man.

     I’m on your side ladies. This book is written to help empower you. My goal here is to help you recognize potential and to help get potentials to recognize you, by guiding you on the path to the man you deserve: or someone who is totally, absolutely, SPRUNG on you. Every real man needs a lady, even if he does not know it.

      Commitment has a different meaning for a woman than it does for most men. To women, it means security, freedom, loyalty, marriage and it means forever or permanent. To a man, that same word – commitment – means he can’t protect himself from you. It means he has to expose his vulnerable side. It means he loses his freedom, his ability to make decisions for himself or his ability to control the emotional roller-coaster ride that follows. But this is where I can be most helpful. Let the lessons begin!

Each chapter features a sexy male photo

Table of Contents

Chapter 1 - Introducing Ladies to Manhood - Every real man needs a woman, but what he doesn't want you to know ... can hurt you

Chapter 2 - The Only Love There Is ... Is The Love We Make - The mystery - the magic - the moments

Chapter 3 - Boys To Men - From arrested development to knight in shining armor to hero

Chapter 4 - A Woman's World - Men ar just squirrels trying to get a nut

Chapter 5 - The Actions of Attraction - The thrill of the chase can lead to a journey of love

Chapter 6 - The Complexity of Cultivating a Relationship - Effective communication is key, and most of it is nonverbal

Chapter 7 - Honor His Integrity and Expect Him To Lie - Honor and trust perpetuates love

Chapter 8 - How To Lean A Man's Heart - His heart beats to the rhythym of his soul

Chapter 9 - The Insecurities of Men - Every man has a weakness in life

Chapter 10- A Man's Subconscious Thoughts - What he's really thinking (but not telling you)

Chapter 11- The Sexual Behavior of Man - One of the most powerful forces on earth

Chapter 12- Enjoying Love Without Marriage - Learn how times are changing

Chapter 13- The Good Men: Where Are They? - What kind of women do they respect

Chapter 14- If Jesus Were One of Us? - There's a Jesus-like man for every woman